Abuse:There are two main issues to abuse that affect men’s rights: the myth that men are not the victims of domestic violence and the malicious use of false allegations of abuse. Despite overwhelming evidence, the notion that men are victims of domestic violence is largely overlooked due to society’s stereotypes of what a man should be. False allegations of physical and sexual abuse have become more common the last few years as more mothers are using these allegations to enhance their chances of receiving custody and thus, child support payments.
A legal system that was designed to protect against abuse is itself being abused, as described in the previous article "How Your Ex-Wife Can Legally Keep Your Kids From You."
The power of false allegations of abuse is undeniable, but the story of Darryl Ginyard gives hope to all fathers being denied their rights to see their children.
High-conflict divorces are often followed by varying degrees of custodial interference combined with false allegations of abuse.
A vengeful ex-wife may deny a father telephone access to his children, interfere with a dad’s participation in their children's sports events or school activities, or thwart a dad's pre-arranged parenting time by refusing visitation.
One tried-and-true tactic used in keeping the children away from their father – many times permanently - is filing a false report of abuse.
Submitted by Anonymous
I have worked as a counselor in a domestic violence shelter in the Midwest for more than five years. I enjoyed my job when it was legitimate, when I was helping an actual victim of domestic violence overcome their past, their trauma, and move on with their lives.
However, day-by-day, week-by-week, it became more and more obvious that the business of domestic violence and my belief in what the true goal of our shelter should be were two very different animals.
The business of domestic violence is exactly that - a business only concerned with numbers, statistics, and money (generally in the form of donations). I believe this is incredibly detrimental to actual victims of domestic violence.
These shelters also make it extremely tempting to people to lie about abuse in order to present themselves as a victim of domestic violence so they would qualify for shelter care.
Thus, I have agreed to write a series of articles for MensRights.com from the viewpoint of someone who was actually there on the inside to expose the truth of what goes on in a domestic violence shelter.
As a specialist in cross-border child custody disputes who has provided expert testimony on parental kidnapping for 15 years, Mauren Dabbagh is not only well-versed professionally, but she also has a personal connection to the issue.
Dabbagh’s daughter was abducted and taken to the Middle East by her ex-husband. She had no communication with her daughter for 17 years until they were reunited in 2010.
In her 15 years handling parental kidnapping cases both professionally and personally, Dabbagh said she has seen the country’s "antiquated" and "barbaric" laws demonize the male gender by reducing men to "sperm banks and child support checks."
That unfortunately popular and destructive mentality and the growing dynamic of "abusive apologetics" are featured in Dabbagh's book, "Parental Kidnapping in America: An Historical and Cultural Analysis."
When it comes to domestic violence awareness, most of the attention is paid to abused women. But readers of MensRights.com know all too well how prevalent domestic violence against men is.
You also know how false allegations of abuse are being used against you, primarily for strategic legal reasons. MensRights.com editor Matt Allen discussed the issue of domestic violence against men in divorce and child custody cases with Cordell & Cordell mens divorce attorney Heather Biagi.
By Sarah Long
Cordell & Cordell Minnesota Divorce Lawyer
Restraining orders, also known as protective orders or orders of protection, are better known as tactical nuclear weapons in family law cases. A system that was designed to protect against abuse is itself being abused.
The misuse of restraining orders by women when going through a divorce is one of the more prevalent and unfortunate trends in family law.
This is because protective orders are easy to obtain – all a woman has to do is say that she is in reasonable fear for her safety. Documented evidence of abuse is not required.
With a small statement, the accused (again, the man in about 85% of the cases) can be forced to stay out of the home, barred from parenting time, and prevented from any contact with his children, including through phone and email. In an instant, his house and kids can be taken away from him.
So it's important to be aware of restraining orders and the impact these orders can have on your case. Here are answers to 8 common questions about orders of protection.
Living with a spouse you are divorcing can be awkward and tension-filled, but it's often a necessity many men have to deal with either because of economics or the strategic edge gained by remaining in the marital home.
Until a court order is entered awarding one party exclusive possession of the marital home, both parties have an equal right to continue to reside at the residence.
Therefore, as long as there are no court orders in place, you and your wife are equally entitled to reside in the marital home.
But if your wife really wants you out of the home then it’s likely she could resort to filing a restraining order or similar order of protection to keep you out of your house even if there is no evidence to suggest a restraining order is warranted.
A system designed to protect from abuse is being abused. False allegations of abuse are increasingly rampant in today's family law courtrooms because of how easy it is to obtain orders of protection that give a huge advantage to one side - usually the woman's side.
Tom Lemons explored this injustice in his latest film "DVI: The Inside Story," a documentary that looks at the impact of false domestic violence claims and a legal system that favors those who lie to obtain them.
Lemons talked with MensRights.com editor Matt Allen about the tactical use of false allegations and the destructive, lasting consequences it forces on the man being victimized.
A Michigan woman who fled the state after refusing to turn over her children to their dad, the custodial parent, has been arrested and charged with two counts of custodial interference a.k.a. parental kidnapping.
This news comes as it’s also being reported that three children kidnapped four years ago by their mother have been located in Mexico and will be reunited with their family.
Men comprise 25–50% of all intimate partner violence victims in a given year and now researchers have published the first studies linking domestic abuse against men by their female partners to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) symptoms, according to the American Psychological Association.
PTSD is a psychiatric condition that can follow the experience of a traumatic incident and the experience of intimate partner violence is generally considered to be a traumatic event.
Intimate partner violence, which includes physical, sexual, and psychological maltreatment of one partner against another, is a national social and health problem affecting hundreds of thousands of individuals and families a year, according to the study titled "Symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder in Men Who Sustain Intimate Partner Violence" published in the April issue of Psychology of Men & Masculinity.