By Sarah J. Merry
It is no secret that texts, tweets, emails and Facebook posts have drastically changed the way the world communicates.
However, if you are anticipating a divorce or custody dispute in this text-happy world, it is important to slow down and remember that once you send that text you cannot get it back. Once you tweet or post your status, it can be seen by many people.
Social media most always makes an appearance in a divorce or custody case so be smart about what you put out there and keep a close eye on what others put out there.
By Caroline Cordell
Kansas Rep. John Bradford has authored a bill that would essentially end “no fault” divorce for the entire state by eliminating "incompatibility" as grounds for divorce.
Proponents of the bill claim the purpose of the new legislation is to encourage people to not get divorced and to instead work on their marriages.
Rep. Bradford argued that the bill would not eliminate no-fault divorce. However, the only “no-fault” reason for divorce that exists in Kansas is incompatibility, so in effect, the bill would do away with “no-fault” divorce.
However, Kansas Rep. Jim Ward has already spoken out against the bill saying, “We should let people decide when to end relationships."
By Tara N. Brewer
A proposed bill in Kentucky to modify the state's "outdated" child support laws could lessen a child support payor’s obligations.
Results from a 2008 survey for the state Child Support Guidelines Review Commission suggested that the analysis of parental spending plans are outdated, as the current analysis of parental spending plan is based off of data from 1987.
Proponents of the legislation argue that since 1998 the standard of living has changed, the spending patterns of the average family have changed, and the old analysis doesn’t account for an increase in the number of children.
Submitted by Anonymous
I worked as a domestic violence advocate for a Midwest domestic violence shelter for about five years. This article and my other ("Inside Story: Domestic Violence Shelters") are based upon my education in the field of criminal justice and domestic violence as well as personal experiences I encountered during my employment.
I truly believe that the United States legal/justice system is the best possible compared to all others in the world at this time.
Does this mean it is perfect? No, not by any stretch of the imagination, which is why it is in a constant state of change and revision.
One area that I believe is long overdue for revision is the area of domestic violence legislation and practices.
By Tara N. Brewer
During divorce proceedings, it's quite difficult to divide assets without the accurate amount. Some troubled couples tend to hide money from each other to avoid sharing it in divorce.
If one person solely handles the household's financial affairs, it’s easier to hide assets. According to the National Endowment for Financial Education, 31% of U.S. adults who combined assets with a spouse or partner admit to being deceptive about money.
However, as the Wall Street Journal reports, hiding assets from your spouse has become increasingly difficult due to the proliferation of electronic discovery research.
A legal system that was designed to protect against abuse is itself being abused, as described in the previous article "How Your Ex-Wife Can Legally Keep Your Kids From You."
The power of false allegations of abuse is undeniable, but the story of Darryl Ginyard gives hope to all fathers being denied their rights to see their children.
High-conflict divorces are often followed by varying degrees of custodial interference combined with false allegations of abuse.
A vengeful ex-wife may deny a father telephone access to his children, interfere with a dad’s participation in their children's sports events or school activities, or thwart a dad's pre-arranged parenting time by refusing visitation.
One tried-and-true tactic used in keeping the children away from their father – many times permanently - is filing a false report of abuse.
Submitted by Anonymous
I have worked as a counselor in a domestic violence shelter in the Midwest for more than five years. I enjoyed my job when it was legitimate, when I was helping an actual victim of domestic violence overcome their past, their trauma, and move on with their lives.
However, day-by-day, week-by-week, it became more and more obvious that the business of domestic violence and my belief in what the true goal of our shelter should be were two very different animals.
The business of domestic violence is exactly that - a business only concerned with numbers, statistics, and money (generally in the form of donations). I believe this is incredibly detrimental to actual victims of domestic violence.
These shelters also make it extremely tempting to people to lie about abuse in order to present themselves as a victim of domestic violence so they would qualify for shelter care.
Thus, I have agreed to write a series of articles for MensRights.com from the viewpoint of someone who was actually there on the inside to expose the truth of what goes on in a domestic violence shelter.
Paying child support can be a frustrating experience, especially when the child is not biologically yours. A CBS article reported a Dallas man was jailed because it was alleged he owed more than $50,000 in unpaid child support to a child that turned out was not his.
The passing of a new Texas paternity law that gives men who doubt paternity a chance to file a claim allowed the man to contest the accusation that he was the biological father. After a DNA paternity test disproved the claim of paternity, the man was released from jail.
As a specialist in cross-border child custody disputes who has provided expert testimony on parental kidnapping for 15 years, Mauren Dabbagh is not only well-versed professionally, but she also has a personal connection to the issue.
Dabbagh’s daughter was abducted and taken to the Middle East by her ex-husband. She had no communication with her daughter for 17 years until they were reunited in 2010.
In her 15 years handling parental kidnapping cases both professionally and personally, Dabbagh said she has seen the country’s "antiquated" and "barbaric" laws demonize the male gender by reducing men to "sperm banks and child support checks."
That unfortunately popular and destructive mentality and the growing dynamic of "abusive apologetics" are featured in Dabbagh's book, "Parental Kidnapping in America: An Historical and Cultural Analysis."