Unwed Fathers Rights

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• Comment Link Saturday, 11 August 2012 13:35 posted by Jeff Ward

  My girlfriend of6 years was gone with our daughter when I cam home from work. She is refusing to let me see my daughter. She says I'll have to wait until the courts settle custody. This could take months. My daughter is almost 4 can she do this?
• Comment Link Thursday, 26 July 2012 18:25 posted by Korrisha Jones

  My childs father purposely wrote the wrong Social Security number down while feeling out a paternity affidavit in the hospital. Does that make the birth certificate invalid? Does he have any rights?
• Comment Link Thursday, 14 June 2012 23:44 posted by Stan Arney

  Q? Why doesn't anyone listen to the stories of Unwed Father's?
  
  My name is Stan, let me fill you in, on where I come from, my perspective, on Father's Rights.
  
  In short, I'm an Unwed Biological Father (UBF), whose Unwed Biological Mother (UBM)
  of our daughter, "took the daughter and ran".
  
  Our daughter was born in February, 2000, and we "broke up" (her idea, not mine) in February, 2001.
  
  [Note: We never went to Court, to establish my paternity, nor Child Support, Child Custody, nor
  Child Visitation, etc.]
  
  The last time I actually saw our daughter, was October 2001.
  We were living in Adrian, Michigan, at the time, though our daughter was born in Toledo, Ohio.
  
  Unfortunate circumstances (losing my job & therefore apartment) caused me to make a heartfelt
  decision, live on the street (with my 14 year old son, from a previous marriage) or move back to
  Kansas (where my family lives) to "get back on my feet, financially". Well, I chose to go back to KS,
  with the full intention of returning to live near our daughter.
  
  I will skip further details, at this point in time.
  
  Needless to say, our daughter's UBM, had no further contact with me, even though she knew my
  postal address, email address, and phone number. (I wrote postal mail letters, emails, and called,
  calls were never answered or returned, emails were never replied to, and postal mail was never
  responded to)
  
  In July, 2002, I realized something was wrong, when one of my letters, to our daughter, was returned,
  "Return to Sender, forwarding address unknown", so I panicked.
  
  I called the Adrian Police, and asked them to do a "welfare check", on our daughter.
  There response was, our daughter and her UBM, had moved and left the state.
  
  So, I tried the "Missing and Exploited Children", they told me, without a Court decree, they
  couldn't help me, even though my child was missing.
  
  I tried my local Police Dept., in Wichita, KS, they told me, that since our daughter was never a
  resident of Wichita, KS, they couldn't help me, either.
  
  So, I have been searching for the whereabouts of our daughter and her UBM, ever since.
  
  I will skip further details, at this point in time.
  
  
  In 2011, I learned, through the Internet, that our daughter's UBM, has remarried.
  [Note: She had been previously married, for 18 years, and divorced, for 3 years, when we met.]
  
  She was remarried, to a man from Gary, Indiana, in 2005, most likely in Gary, Indiana.
  
  It was suggested, that I apply for a replacement Social Security Card, to see if our daughter,
  still had my last name.
  
  [Note: My name is listed as her Father, on her official Birth Certificate, and on her hospital,
  from Toledo, Ohio, Birth Record. Also, in Ohio, when there are Unwed Parents of a child,
  they have a Law that requires the parents to sign a Paternity Affidavit, stating who the Biological
  Father is, by their signatures, they are agreeing, the person noted is the Biological Father, that
  person, is listed as, myself.]
  
  So, I filled out an application, and took it to the SSA (Social Security Administration) office.
  The SSA Representative told me, she couldn't accept my application, because the current name,
  of the child, they had on file, was NOT the name I was providing! The SSA Representative told
  me, that if I could provide her Birth Certificate, with her current name, and my name listed as the
  Father, then she could fulfill my request. I told her, I had our daughter's Birth Certificate,
  Hospital Birth Record, and Paternity Affidavit, with me. She told me, that unless they showed
  our daughter's current name (they have on file), it didn't matter.
  
  Well, since I had found out, that our daughter's UBM had remarried in 2005, and I had the man's
  name, I asked the SSA Representative, if I gave her a current last name, for our daughter, could
  she, at least, tell me if it was our daughter's current last name? She went to check, and when she
  returned she told me she couldn't, by Law. I asked her, if she could confirm or deny, that the last
  name I believed it was, was it, and again she said she couldn't, by Law.
  
  This did however prove one thing, our daughter has now been adopted, by another man.
  
  Our daughter's UBM, has known my current address, phone number, and email address, all this time,
  yet she couldn't even give me a "heads up", on the adoption, knowing I'm 900 miles away, with little
  possibility of hiring a local attorney, etc.
  
  This is the backdrop, of my situation, with Father's Rights, and more specifically,
  Unwed Biological Fathers Rights.
  
  After I realized our daughter and her UBM had moved, back in 2002, I looked for support groups
  and Fathers Rights groups, for help.
  
  I found a website called SPARC, and they had a lot of information, and seem to be a good group.
  When I told them, I was thinking about creating my own, Father's Rights Group (F.R.G.), I was severely
  discouraged, they basically told me, there are enough Father's Rights Groups out there doing a good job,
  so there is no need, to start yet another one.
  
  Well, I prayed on it, and decided that if these other F.R.G. were not getting anything done, then I would
  create my own. So, without any previous experience, I did just that. I thought up a name, mission, the works.
  I even purchased the domain name for the organization. Well, all the want in the World doesn't matter if you
  can't get anyone's attention, so I never truly got it off the ground. I put the idea on the "back burner".
  
  Leap forward, in time, to 2011.
  
  After I realized, our daughter has been adopted by another man, and I probably shall never see her again,
  I decided to, again, look for F.R.G., for support and to try to make a difference.
  
  I again, found SPARC, and asked them the same Q?, what did they think if I started my own F.R.G. that
  would help UBF, like myself, and get the Laws changed, etc. Yet again, I was severely discouraged,
  with basically the same reasons. There are enough F.R.G. out there, and some very good ones, so why
  don't I look into them, join one, and get involved, in that manner.
  
  Mind you, I still have thought strongly about starting my own, F.R.G., after all, I still have all the information
  I had before, to re-start the one, I already had in mind.
  
  I can tell you, honestly, as I have researched F.R.G., they are mostly concerned with Laws surrounding
  parents, that were once married, now divorced, with custody, visitation, and support, their main "issues".
  I don't see enough being attempted, for UBF's like myself.
  
  Yes, it's true, it's my fault, that I never went before the Court, to officially name me, as our daughter's Father
  (the Court's sole purpose for this, is to establish Child Support (with Custody and Visitation, not a concern).
  This is something, I shall regret, for the rest of my Life.
  
  Yes, it's true, I left the State, where our daughter and her UBM were living, at the time.
  Even though, the reasons I stated above, were the cause. I can honestly say, even though there was no
  official Court order, I did attempt to send support (money), via certified letter, to our daughter's UBM.
  All letters were returned to me, "refused". So, I'm not a "deadbeat dad".
  
  It's probably, too late, for me, and odds are I may never see our daughter again.
  
  However, it doesn't mean, that I cannot work towards preventing this happening to another UBF,
  in the future!
  
  [Note: I have put aside, for now, my thoughts on creating my own NPO, F.R.G.]
  
  I'm medically retired, at 50, due to having MS (Multiple Sclerosis), and my wife and I, both live on
  SSD (Social Security Disability), so I don't have anything, financially, to offer.
  
  I simply want to get my "story" out there, as a warning for other Unwed Father's, so perhaps, they will not have to
  go through the daily agony, that I do.
  
  Thank you for your time, consideration, and cooperation, I truly appreciate it.
• Comment Link Tuesday, 07 February 2012 03:21 posted by Mara

  My father never knew that he impregnated my mother. He left the area before she knew and could tell him.
  
  The State of California bastardized me in order to sell me in the adoption market. My birth certificate was sealed forever and amended. I'm 42 years old and still cannot find my father. He's not looking for me because he doesn't know I exist.
  
  This is the reality of adoption in this country. It isn't the rainbow and butterflies cr*p that gets shoved down our throats in government-sponsored commercials.
  
  Adoption is a 6 billion dollar/year unregulated industry that profits from the sale and redistribution of children. It's sick.
• Comment Link Thursday, 26 January 2012 00:18 posted by Angela Lane

  My family is very low income. How much do you charge?