Wednesday, 16 November 2011 14:02

Using Restraining Orders To Gain Access To Marital Home

Written by  Matt Allen
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restraining orderLiving with a spouse you are divorcing can be awkward and tension-filled, but it's often a necessity many men have to deal with either because of economics or the strategic edge gained by remaining in the marital home.

Until a court order is entered awarding one party exclusive possession of the marital home, both parties have an equal right to continue to reside at the residence.

Therefore, as long as there are no court orders in place, you and your wife are equally entitled to reside in the marital home.

But if your wife really wants you out of the home then it’s likely she could resort to filing a restraining order or similar order of protection to keep you out of your house even if there is no evidence to suggest a restraining order is warranted.

Unfortunately, you cannot do much to prevent your wife from filing a retraining order based on false allegations. Depending on the laws in your state regarding restraining orders or orders of protection, it may be fairly easy for your wife to get an emergency order of protection or restraining order, even before a hearing takes place.

Before a permanent order of protection or restraining order is entered, you would have the right to a hearing in front of a judge where you would be able to preset your side of the story and refute or discredit your wife’s allegations.

While you cannot prevent your wife from attempting to obtain an order of protection, you can take steps to avoid putting yourself in a situation where she may use your actions to claim that she feels in danger or threatened.

If you find yourself in a situation where your spouse is trying to incite you or provoke an argument with you, you should either remove yourself from the situation immediately or have another adult present if you foresee a confrontation arising. You need to be aware that anything you say or do can be used against you by your spouse.

You may also want to safeguard important personal possessions or documents in a location outside the marital home, in the event that your wife does obtain an order of protection against you.

If your wife does file an order of protection, you should consult a qualified mens divorce attorney in your state to give you legal advice on divorce on how to respond and how this may impact future divorce proceedings.

mens divorce lawyerTo schedule an appointment with a Cordell & Cordell mens divorce attorney, including Erin Brockhoff, a Belleville Divorce Lawyer, please contact Cordell & Cordell.

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7 comments

  • Comment Link Tom from Texas Sunday, 25 March 2012 11:20 posted by Tom from Texas

    Make sure you buy a digital recorder. Always keep it on you.

  • Comment Link MensRights.com admin Monday, 12 December 2011 13:59 posted by MensRights.com admin

    Our sister site, DadsDivorce.com, has a couple articles on how to address an order of protection:

    How To Fight An Order of Protection: http://www.dadsdivorce.com/articles/how-to-fight-an-order-of-protection.html

    What You Need To Know About An Order of Protection: http://www.dadsdivorce.com/articles/what-you-need-to-know-about-orders-of-protection.html

  • Comment Link Gates Monday, 12 December 2011 04:52 posted by Gates

    sorry about the multiple duplicate post guys.

  • Comment Link P. Gates Monday, 12 December 2011 04:49 posted by P. Gates

    What should a man do if, the possibility for this to take place is present, to protect himself against such treachery.

  • Comment Link Keith Deyton Friday, 02 December 2011 14:10 posted by Keith Deyton

    Something has to be done immediately. Just as Tom said, and ive experienced, the woman can claim ANY allegations about the man and it is left up to the MAN to prove his innocence. It should be just the opposite, SHE should have evidence before reporting to the police/courts that there has been mischief in the home in order to have the MAN removed. The court system sides with the female automatically when in reality the female is the person causing the issues and dont want to solve matters like adults.

  • Comment Link Tom Leustek Tuesday, 22 November 2011 20:03 posted by Tom Leustek

    A restraining order is not needed and in fact is not the most effective strategy. During the month after I filed for divorce I kept completely to myself, in a separate room of the house. One morning my ex calmly told me that she wanted me to leave. I refused from behind the closed room door. She calmly said, okay have it your way, and left the home. Fifteen minutes later 8 police officers converged at my home and asked whether I had threatened my wife with a machete. She had claimed that I was sharpening the knife and threatened to cut her throat. They searched the home and, finding nothing, brought her back to point out the machete. Lo and behold there was one hidden somewhere in the attic. I was handcuffed and led out the door in my pajamas in front of my two children with the ex-wife glaring on my way out. I was arrested on a terroristic threats charge, spent the entire day in jail, was bailed out by my neighbor, and had to spend $3,500 on a criminal attorney. While I was distracted and disoriented by the gut-punch, she filed a Motion for Pendente Lite support, accusing me of abandoning the family and not paying any of the bills, which was untrue, but the judge didn’t accept any of my pleas and ordered me to pay 80% of what I earned to her until the divorce was final. I paid that for 18 months and lived at my sister’s house. In addition to the torture of having to deal with her and my attorney’s, it was the Pendente Lite payments that forced me finally to cave in to her alimony demand, $3,000 per month for the rest of my or her life. The false allegation to police was simply swept under the rug after she claimed that the police had misunderstood her.

  • Comment Link here we go Friday, 18 November 2011 17:36 posted by here we go

    Can the father file an order of protection/ restraining order to remove the mother from the house. father is the primary caregiver of the child s4.

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