Ten Facts About Parental Alienation

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• Comment Link Thursday, 15 March 2012 21:59 posted by Gina

  Is there a resource to find counselors/therapists that specialize in treating children that are victims of PAS? I am in St. Louis, Mo. and am in desperate need of a counselor/therapist that specializes with parental alienation matters. To date, the counselors/therapists I've spoken to are either NOT AT ALL familiar with Parental Alienation, or they admit to only knowing very little about it. Even the Guardian ad Litem isn't familiar with it. I would greatly appreciate any recommendations.
• Comment Link Saturday, 25 February 2012 16:14 posted by Betsy

  Carrie. I understand what you're saying. I see the post is almost a year old and I hope by now your son is more able to cope with the situation. My son (and our family) have been dealing with a similar situation for almost four years now. The judge has played into the alienating/manipulating parent's hand from day one however it is better now as she actually follows court orders. Stay strong and keep the faith. Hoping you (and us) have victory before the children involved are damaged by the alienating parents scheme is played out further.
• Comment Link Monday, 10 October 2011 01:36 posted by dave a

  Here is my personal experience with Parental Alienation. Warning, strong language. I'd be interested in any feedback. I hope this video helps other people in similar situations. Thanks.
  
  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJDsruc-xxg
• Comment Link Thursday, 23 June 2011 06:44 posted by Fred

  in my case the non-custodial parent tried to alienate my child from me. The child would stare at me when I hugged her. She would come back from visits stating that I never took care of her when she was a baby. ETC.
  I just stayed a good parent and she figured it out in time. Now she does not want to be with the other parent and that parent is accusing me of PAS. No, the child got old enough to realize what was happening and hates the other parent's environment. Even money cannot bribe her to go on visits. Talk about backfiring...but only half way. It is still my responsibility to force her to visit the other parent. Her refusals make me look like the PAS perpetrator.
• Comment Link Saturday, 30 April 2011 13:48 posted by mil sig

  I grew up in a dysfunctional family whereby my mother who had suffered racism as a result of being named Cherokee and part Cherokee by blood alienitated her 6 children from relatives by blood on both sides of the maternal/paternal bloodlines due to mistreatment. Her reaction was to isolate and alienitate her children for self-protection which included strong elements of denial. My siblings have continued alienitating from each other since death of both parents rather than deal with strong emotional issues. My youngest brother when divorced was parentally alienitated from his 3 biological charges by his ex-wife who wanted power and money. She continued to collect child support but used allegations of sexual molestation on the adopted step-son to keep my brother away from his children. She lied to the children and did not tell my brother as father's side of the story. This went on for over 10 years and the effects are long lasting. It is true in my siblings I see narcisstic behaviors and borderline behaviors because of the parental alienitation as a source of protection from emotional harms rather than dealing with the issues. Isolation and rejection are not the answer to familial and intergenterational problems. Our society and agencies like child protective services perpuate parental alienitation by demonizing the absent non-custodial parent. It is a tragedy that has long lasting mental illness and emotional problems which carry over into society. My brother is unable to funciton in society socially and to maintain a job is impossible for him.
• Comment Link Friday, 22 April 2011 18:19 posted by Robert Ferrer

  Visitation Interference is one of the strategies used in parental alienation. Missouri has one of the best laws against it. Missouri states right off the bat that:
  
  “The general assembly finds and declares that it is the public policy of this state that frequent, continuing and meaningful contact with both parents after the parents have separated or dissolved their marriage is in the best interest of the child…
  
  In order to effectuate this public policy, a court with jurisdiction shall enforce visitation, custody and child support orders in the same manner.” (§ 452.340 note 7)."
  
  If your ex-partner doesn't see the value of both parents' meaningful involvement and refuses to cooperate in sharing parenting time, you have no choice but to see an attorney. Don't give up hope and don't let your ex-partner get away with this ---- it is only hurting your child.
  
  Please also consider attending the conference mentioned above. You need to know that you are not alone. The speakers gathered for this program can also help with providing insight and strategies.
• Comment Link Friday, 22 April 2011 01:42 posted by terriewinkle

  How do you handle this sort of situation where a father is being alienated from his child & is distraught & confused.
• Comment Link Friday, 22 April 2011 01:41 posted by carrie chalmers

  my son is going through a recent separation from his girlfriend and 12 month old daughter. It has been 2 weeks since she has told him she is involved with someone new. She and her family members think that even if he is distraught he should be in total control of his emotions with the situation. They believe he should not cry when he holds his daughter?
• Comment Link Thursday, 21 April 2011 13:39 posted by mike jeffries

  Thanks for plugging both Parental Alienation Awareness Day as well as the upcoming PAAO Conference on May 21 in Chicago. We have a great roster of speakers and we're expecting a great turnout.
  
  I hope anyone in the Chicago area affected by parental alienation, or even people who just know someone who is dealing with alienation, can attend. They won't be disappointed.
  
  Sincerely,
  
  mike jeffries
  Author, A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienaion