Wednesday, 28 September 2011 20:35

Men's Rights Spotlight: Fathers and Families

Written by  Matt Allen
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fathers rightsThis is the first in a series of articles highlighting men's rights organizations.

Fathers and Families improves the lives of children and strengthens society by protecting the child's right to the love and care of both parents after separation or divorce.

We seek better lives for children through family court reform that establishes equal rights and responsibilities for fathers and mothers.

Decades of research show beyond doubt that children do better when two biological parents raise them. But divorce, separation and out-of-wedlock childbearing tend to separate children from their father. 

So Fathers and Families seeks to change family law to keep both parents in children's lives to the greatest extent possible.

Mostly, we try to change state laws that militate against father-child involvement post-divorce. We actively lobby state legislatures and have had great success over the years in advancing our agenda.

Here’s a list of some of our most recent accomplishments:

•    Helped Pass 2011 Bills to Protect the Child Custody/Parenting Time Rights of Military Parents in Ohio, Georgia, Nevada, and Arizona.
•    Got 30% of MA Legislators to Sign on as Co-Sponsors of 2011 Shared Parenting Legislation
•    Helped Pass CA Bill to Protect Disabled Parents’ Child Custody, Visitation Rights 
•    Helped Pass CA Bill to Protect Military Parents’ Child Custody/Parenting Time Rights
•    Helped Defeat MA Bill Which Would Have Marginalized Noncustodial Parents in Their Children’s Healthcare Decisions
•    Helping Block Ohio Bill to Increase Child Support
•    Protected CA Parent Targets of Parental Alienation by Helping Defeat AB 612
•    Helped Pass 2010 CA Bill to Protect Alimony Obligors from Abuses
•    Helped Pass Bills to Protect Disabled Parents from Family Court Financial Abuses in AZ, IN, & CA in 2009/2010

Click the link to read even more of Fathers and Families' accomplishments over the years.

Fathers and Families is also a source on which fathers nationwide can rely for assistance in fighting their personal child custody battles. We regularly hear from men and women who have been victimized by the family court system. Although we don’t provide legal advice, we've been able to make a difference in legal outcomes for countless divorced dads seeking justice in family courts. 

As but one example, we recently helped Colorado dad Peter Spitz get full custody of his son after years of fighting against his guardians.

But changing laws is only part of the battle; changing minds is also important. To that end, Fathers and Families maintains a daily blog that attempts to educate the public about the many problems that beset fathers in family courts and to correct the many misconceptions about fathers that appear in the news media and public discourse every day.

The problems fathers face in family courts are many. They include inequality in child custody awards, excessive child support and draconian measures to collect it, non-enforcement of visitation, no-contact orders based on little or no evidence, paternity fraud, parental alienation, child abduction, false allegations of abuse and discrimination in adoption proceedings.

Fathers and Families attempts to deal with each of these problems and more. The road is long and progress often seems slow. But those of us who have been in the movement for family court reform for many years see that great changes have been made.

That trend promises to continue and Fathers and Families will continue to lead it until true equality of mothers and fathers in family court is achieved.

By Robert Franklin

Managing Editor, FathersandFamilies.org

 

Get more information on how to deal with family law when you are a man. Visit DadsDivorce.com for answers to all your men's divorce questions.

Contact a Cordell & Cordell mens divorce attorney if you need legal representation as most parties in family law cases do.


10 comments

  • Comment Link twana crowner Friday, 06 April 2012 23:39 posted by twana crowner

    my son has a protective order againts him he cant see his kids for a whole year that is not right what can i do

  • Comment Link TWANA CROWNER Friday, 06 April 2012 23:35 posted by TWANA CROWNER

    MY SON HAVE A PROTECTIVE ORDER AGAIST HIM HE CAN NOT SEE HIS KIDS FOR A YEAR AND THAT IS NOT RIGHT HE SHOULD NOT BE WITH OUT SEEING HIS KIDS THAT LONG SO WHAT CAN HE DO

  • Comment Link Katelyn Sigler Thursday, 01 March 2012 03:26 posted by Katelyn Sigler

    My husband is currently deployed and has an old custody/child support agreement with his ex of 6years ago. She refuses to allow him to see or even speak with his children. We would like to aggressively pursue his right to see his children. I have his POA and would like to begin the process as I know legally it takes a long time for the court cogs to begin turning. We reside in Texas and his ex resides in Nebraska, how difficult do you think it will be to pursue this?

  • Comment Link Frustrated dad Wednesday, 30 November 2011 17:19 posted by Frustrated dad

    Hi, my ex and I have been divorced for over a year now and separated for a little over two years. While going through the divorce process she did not allow me to see my kids even though I was paying her bills and supporting the kids while we lived separately. I kept receipts of all this. Once our divorce was final (due to default - she did not show up) she still did not allow me access to my kids. I had to continue to retain a lawyer and file contempt on her. She was only given a warning by the judge. I was able to see the kids last Halloween and then she did not allow further contact again. During all this time I paid for a cell phone for the oldest and the ex used it and did not allow the kids to call me. I was then forced to hire a different attorney to try and exercise my rights to see my kids during Xmas break. I had a wonderful visit and was then again denied any communication or contact with my kids until another contempt was file earlier this year. She received another warning. Since then I have had every other weekend visits but my telephone communication with the kids is monitored and the kids are not allowed to talk to me unless mom is around. They frequently get in trouble for talking or texting with me. My oldest wants to live with me. His mom won't buy him clothes or provide for him or the other kids and alienates him because he is the only one vocal enough to say he wants a relationship with me. This is just a small summary of what has been going on. I am on my second lawyer and have run out of money to pay for a lawyer and since I work I don't qualify for pro bono. I feel helpless because I cant afford a lawyer to go to trial that is already scheduled. I don't know how to tell my kids I can't help them. It is very sad to wake up to text messages from my kids begging me to pick them up because of the environment they live in. We have tried getting the school involved but they are hesitant to get involved in a custody battle. The justice system has clearly shown it is not on the kids side. I have been fighting for two years to just have every other weekend holidays and summer visit and it takes arguments and lawyers fees to continue to exercise my rights. I don't know where to turn now. My funds have been exhausted and I'm drained but I refuse to give up on my kids. Any assistance would be great!

  • Comment Link ed johnston Wednesday, 30 November 2011 16:14 posted by ed johnston

    Know your born rights,,,

    Read the following..



    Arrest without judicial warrant constitutes cruel and unusual punishment, and is therefore unconstitutional for legal Americans two our generations.

    Politicians encourage us to believe we live in a Democracy where they can't vote in any policy they want. We need to remind them that our Constitution guarantees us protections against their proposed abusive laws.
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    We don't live in a Democracy. We live in a Constitutional Republic. Since D.C. is outside the fifty states, it is a foreign country with respect to the fifty states. Laws of foreign countries have no jurisdiction in the fifty states.
    SUI JURIS - THE TRUTH IN THE RECORD - Gaston
    YouTube - Republic vs Democracy



    The goal of these proposes policies involving arrest without warrant isn't Democracy, it's world domination. A Constitutional Republic has laws set in stone which are guaranteed to protect our civil liberties. A Democracy cannot protect people from official abuse.
    http://www.yourstrawman.com/

    Consider the following three examples:

    Six military officials convene to vote on whether being gay is a crime.
    Five officials are not gay.
    One official is gay.
    The five white officials vote that being gay is a crime.
    The gay official votes that being gay is not a crime.
    The gay official is overruled.
    After voting that being gay is a crime, the non-gay officials remove the gay official from the military.

    Six officials convene to vote on whether slavery is a crime.
    Five officials are white.
    One official is black.
    The five white officials vote that slavery is not a crime.
    The black official votes that slavery it is a crime.
    The black official is overruled.
    After slavery is no longer a crime, the black official is made to work without pay for the white officials.

    Six officials convene to vote on whether rape is a crime.
    Five officials are men.
    One official is a woman.
    The five men vote that rape is not a crime.
    The woman votes that rape is a crime.
    She is overruled.
    After rape is not a crime, the male officials rape the female official.

    Clearly, a Democracy cannot provide sufficient protections for public safety.

    A constitutional republic's laws are set in stone. They can't be changed without an amendment approved by thirty-six states.

    According to our constitutional republic, the United States cannot participate in air strikes in a foreign country unless Congress declares war. The government of Afghanistan didn't attack the United States on 911. 911 was a crime, not an act of war. Congress hasn't declared war on Afghanistan. So why are our soldiers engaged in attacking innocent children in Afghanistan, and committing suicide in record numbers?

    The wars in Iraq and Afghanistan are both illegal. The question is, what remedy do Americans have to stop politicians from funding the war?

    Some believe that our Constitution is old-fashioned and out-dated. However is it old-fashioned to uphold just constitutional laws that protect the lives of innocent children overseas?
    http://www.patriotnetwork.info/Citizens_rule_book.htm
    http://www.oregontrackers.com/

    SENATE TO VOTE ON INDEFINITE DETENTION OF U.S. Citizens WITHOUT CHARGES
    OR TRIAL By the U.S. Army ! - WHAT ARE YOUR COMMENTS?*

    (This is the reason that the Colonists left Europe to come to North
    America, To Escape the King's Soldiers coming into their houses to
    collect taxes for the King and not to have to quarter soldiers in their
    houses when ordered by the KIng.
    Things that our "Former ?" U.S. Constitution forbids ! "Our former ?"
    U.S. Constitution also forbids the U.S. military from performing
    policing duties like arrests of U.S. Citizens) tlb-fns

    Senate Bill #1867 allows Military to Intern
    Americans Indefinitely without Charges or Trials.
    http://occupywallst.org/forum/s1867-allows-military-to-intern-americans-without-/
    Changed:9:53 AM on Sunday, November 27, 2011

    S.1867 - Google Search
    http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&source=hp&ie=ISO-8859-1&gbv=1&q=S.1867+
    Senate Bill #1867 allows Military to Intern Americans Indefinately
    without Charges or Trials. - Google News Search

    http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&source=hp&ie=ISO-8859-1&gbv=1&q=Senate+Bill+%231867+allows+Military+to+Intern+Americans+Indefinately+without+Charges+or+Trials.+%0D%0A

    Pass this on - Call your Congressmen
    "All the Navigable Waters of the State shall be Common ...
    "All the Navigable Waters of the State shall be Common Highways and Forever Free"
    publicriversforever.org/admissions_ act.htm - Cached
    By
    Ed Johnston
    Education of our Constitutional born rights for the legal American,The Disabled , Elderly and working man.
    If you enjoy the labor in this presentation please make a gift to
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    Can Always pass on

  • Comment Link Dana Bryant Thursday, 03 November 2011 15:57 posted by Dana Bryant

    My son is going through a custody battle with the mother of his child, he's only 22 years old. Because the moms,aunt is a judge we seem to believe she is making it impossible for him to get custody. It is clearly evident that my son is the better of the two parents. I hired my son an attorney n hopefully this will help. She is withholding the child from us its been 3,months now. My son didn't sign the birth certificate at the hospital because he only knew her for a month before she was pregnant. He did a dna test n found out it was his child. Now the girl won't allow him to put his name on the birth certificate so he can pay child support. This is really sad that our young black men who are responsible have no rights. The laws need to change the encorage more dads to be dads. I think the government makes it that way to keep families divided. Why else is it so difficult for a man to see his child? If any body can help please respond. Thank you.

  • Comment Link Steven Burda Thursday, 13 October 2011 10:27 posted by Steven Burda

    Thanks for sharing this story...

    - Steven Burda

  • Comment Link walter Thursday, 06 October 2011 23:37 posted by walter

    wish you could help me. i feel like in arkansas the father has no right.

  • Comment Link MensRights.com admin Thursday, 29 September 2011 14:00 posted by MensRights.com admin

    Cordell & Cordell has divorce lawyers for men located in 20 states: http://www.cordellcordell.com/offices

    The custody factors considered will vary by state (state divorce laws: http://www.dadsdivorce.com/state-resources-mainmenu-68), but if you have ever been involved in a child custody case or you are about to begin one you most likely have heard the phrase "best interests of the child."

    Almost every state determines custody and visitation issues based on the best interests of the child standard. State statutes and case law define this standard differently, but in general there are certain factors and themes that appear in the majority of states.

    So when you ask the inevitable question of "what are my chances I’ll get custody", here is a general list of what the courts use to analyze the "best interests of the child," according to Cordell & Cordell attorney Jennifer Paine.


    The love, affection, and other emotional ties existing between the parties involved and the child.
    The capacity and disposition of the parties involved to give the child love, affection and guidance and to continue the education and raising of the child in his or her religion or creed, if any.
    The capacity and disposition of the parties involved to provide the child with food, clothing, medical care or other remedial care.
    The length of time the child has lived in a stable, satisfactory environment, and the desirability of maintaining continuity.
    The permanence of the existing or proposed home or homes.
    The moral fitness of the parties involved.
    The mental and physical health of the parties involved.
    The home, school, and community record of the child.
    The reasonable preference of the child, if the court considers the child to be of sufficient age to express preference.
    The willingness and ability of each of the parties to facilitate and encourage a close and continuing parent-child relationship between the child and the other parent of the child and parents.
    Domestic violence, regardless of whether the violence was directed against or witnessed by the child.
    Any other factor considered by the court to be relevant to the particular family.


    You will find the same or similar factors in most states.

    So playing a part in the child custody analysis will be your location at the time of the divorce, your relationship with your children, your relationship with your spouse, who was the primary caregiver, where the children have an established, familiar environment, where the children go to school, which parent is more likely to encourage the children's current religious education, etc.

    An experienced family law attorney will know how to advocate on your behalf.

  • Comment Link Manuel J. Campos Thursday, 29 September 2011 02:07 posted by Manuel J. Campos

    I am a recently separated dad of a beautiful 4 year old girl. Her mom seems to think that our custody arrangement should be limited to every other weekend - leaving me with only 52 days out of a year to spend with my daughter. While we were together for the first three years of her life, I was not allowed to bathe, feed, or put her to sleep at night - her mom "had" to breast feed during those times. She would not consider pumping into a bottle so that I could be a part of that experience. I was only left alone for two nights with my girl during those first three years. I have my faults, but I deserve to spend more than 52 days a year with my reason for living - Kylie. I would appreciate any advice or connections with someone who could help me get custody. Thanks! Respectfully, Manny Campos

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