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Alimony Reform Becomes A Reality

Written by  Matt Allen
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alimony reformSupporters are hoping the recently approved changes to Massachusetts' "archaic" alimony laws will trigger successful alimony reforms in other states.

One of the driving forces behind alimony reform is Elizabeth Benedict, a journalist and novelist whose op-ed piece in the Boston Globe in 2008 helped the Massachusetts alimony reform movement gain momentum.

Current alimony laws are written to be gender neutral, but the fact that 97% of alimony payers are men prove the reality is anything but gender neutral, according to Benedict.

She spoke with MensRights.com editor Matt Allen about the forthcoming changes to Massachusetts alimony laws and what other states need to adopt alimony reforms.

 

Men's Rights: Why did you call the Massachusetts alimony laws "medieval?" What about them seemed so archaic?

Elizabeth Benedict:
Well, how long do you have? The current laws, which the Massachusetts legislature just voted to overhaul, reflect ideas about men and women and marriage that are not part of the world we live in.

The laws on the books are gender neutral, but the facts are not gender neutral. 97% of alimony payers are men and most of alimony awarded in Massachusetts is lifetime, permanent alimony that does not end even with retirement.

So you have men in nursing homes, men with dementia and men with terminal illnesses paying alimony from their social security checks or from their retirement pensions that could be worth almost nothing. And if these men stop paying, they could be sent to jail.

Under current law, a judge cannot put an end date on alimony. So even when judges feel alimony should end, they are hamstrung by the current laws.

Another very disturbing feature of Massachusetts law that is not part of the statutes but rather is case law, is if someone marries an alimony payer the ex-wife can come back to court and say she has greater financial needs and her ex-husband now has greater financial means because he has married someone else. We’re not talking about people who marry millionaires, just everyday people.

One other abuse that I think is really important for people to understand is the higher earner has to pay the lower earner. So alimony doesn’t just go to the wife who stayed at home for 30 years taking care of the children; alimony is going to a woman making $200,000 whereas her husband is making $250,000. Now he is forced to pay her the difference in alimony and is forced to pay until he dies or she remarries. There’s no end to this and that’s bizarre, unfair and unnecessary.



Men's Rights: As mentioned, Massachusetts has approved changes to its alimony laws so what are the new laws, presumably designed to protect husbands?

Elizabeth Benedict:
First, I want to say that the Massachusetts House and Senate approved these reforms unanimously; there was not a single vote against them, which tells you how bad these laws were and how much momentum there was to change them.

One of the main things is judges will be able to put an end date to alimony. For shorter-term marriages, there will be clear guidelines for how long alimony can last. There will be different types of alimony based on the situation of the marriage. For longer term marriages there will be durational alimony. Essentially, the longer you are married the higher percentage of time you will pay alimony for, but there is an end even if someone is paying it for a long time.

There are safeguards in place for special cases where someone needs alimony for longer, such as if a party is ill or incapacitated or the couple divorces at an old age. But the standards to meet those provisions to those exceptions are very high.

Finally, the incomes of second wives or new spouses cannot be considered in alimony determinations when the recipient party goes in for a modification.



Men's Rights: We’ve talked a lot about Massachusetts reform, but what about other states that are in desperate need of alimony reform?

Elizabeth Benedict:
Florida for sure. There’s a group called FloridaAlimonyReform.com that is trying to mimic what Massachusetts has done. I've heard New Jersey has some serious problems, along with several states in the South such as Georgia. Tennessee’s Supreme Court is currently deciding an important case about lifetime alimony and income equalization.

So there are a number of states that still have these alimony problems, but I think it’s important to understand that most states do not have lifetime alimony. Most states also encourage people to have several years of alimony or short-term alimony depending on the length of marriage and then become self-sufficient.

Alimony reform is an interesting and very, very important subject these days.

 

Note: Watch Ms. Benedict's interview on DadsDivorce.com. If you are looking for an alimony modification, then schedule an appointment with the divorce attorneys for men at the Cordell & Cordell Law Firm.


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6 comments

  • Comment Link Jess Thursday, 16 February 2012 01:48 posted by Jess

    I do have special circumstances for being granted lifetime alimony. I was granted lifetime alimony after a 7-year marriage. My ex husband committed crimes against me during the marriage such as forgery and bigamy. He was suspended from practicing law for this misconduct. Judge Harms who was my advocate retired. I am a disabled woman and there was a great disparity of wealth during our divorce settlement. The marital home was worth 500k at the time of divorce and I took a lesser settlement of 50K and 2 thousand a month. He was making $10,000 a month and I am getting a small social security disability check. If I had known the laws would change I would have asked for half 50%. My case is special circumstances there must be more women out there like myself who are going to suffer very badly in this economy. I would have not agreed to their divorce settlement if I could have foreseen the laws changing and not being grandfathered in. I have PTSD and fear having relationships with men because I was emotionally tortured and terrorized. My condition has worsened because of the inhumane abuses I endured during my marriage. I was forced to leave the marriage after 7 years because my ex husband was physically and emotionally abusive, forged my name on legal documents and was Admonished. After his discipline he then cheated, and committed bigamy living a double life. He was disbarred from practicing law for these crimes against me and now I feel as though I am being punished with a Alimony modification.
    http://www.mass.gov/obcbbo/bd11-043.pdf

  • Comment Link Jess Thursday, 16 February 2012 01:47 posted by Jess

    I do have special circumstances for being granted lifetime alimony. I was granted lifetime alimony after a 7-year marriage. My ex husband committed crimes against me during the marriage such as forgery and bigamy. He was suspended from practicing law for this misconduct. Judge Harms who was my advocate retired. I am a disabled woman and there was a great disparity of wealth during our divorce settlement. The marital home was worth 500k at the time of divorce and I took a lesser settlement of 50K and 2 thousand a month. He was making $10,000 a month and I am getting a small social security disability check. If I had known the laws would change I would have asked for half 50%. My case is special circumstances there must be more women out there like myself who are going to suffer very badly in this economy. I would have not agreed to their divorce settlement if I could have foreseen the laws changing and not being grandfathered in. I have PTSD and fear having relationships with men because I was emotionally tortured and terrorized. My condition has worsened because of the inhumane abuses I endured during my marriage. I was forced to leave the marriage after 7 years because my ex husband was physically and emotionally abusive, forged my name on legal documents and was Admonished. After his discipline he then cheated, and committed bigamy living a double life. He was disbarred from practicing law for these crimes against me and now I feel as though I am being punished with a Alimony modification.
    http://www.mass.gov/obcbbo/bd11-043.pdf

  • Comment Link jess Thursday, 16 February 2012 01:47 posted by jess

    I do have special circumstances for being granted lifetime alimony. I was granted lifetime alimony after a 7-year marriage. My ex husband committed crimes against me during the marriage such as forgery and bigamy. He was suspended from practicing law for this misconduct. Judge Harms who was my advocate retired. I am a disabled woman and there was a great disparity of wealth during our divorce settlement. The marital home was worth 500k at the time of divorce and I took a lesser settlement of 50K and 2 thousand a month. He was making $10,000 a month and I am getting a small social security disability check. If I had known the laws would change I would have asked for half 50%. My case is special circumstances there must be more women out there like myself who are going to suffer very badly in this economy. I would have not agreed to their divorce settlement if I could have foreseen the laws changing and not being grandfathered in. I have PTSD and fear having relationships with men because I was emotionally tortured and terrorized. My condition has worsened because of the inhumane abuses I endured during my marriage. I was forced to leave the marriage after 7 years because my ex husband was physically and emotionally abusive, forged my name on legal documents and was Admonished. After his discipline he then cheated, and committed bigamy living a double life. He was disbarred from practicing law for these crimes against me and now I feel as though I am being punished with a Alimony modification.
    http://www.mass.gov/obcbbo/bd11-043.pdf

  • Comment Link Alisa Whiting Thursday, 27 October 2011 00:34 posted by Alisa Whiting

    Permanent alimony is a smack in the face to the person divorcing someone who decides they no longer choose to work, support their family, improve their home, etc. When both parties worked throughout the marriage, alimony should not even be a consideration. Permanent alimony does not motive the irresponsible party to become responsible. Instead, NJ laws further penalize the responsible party instead of putting the irresponsible party on notice. And BTW Russell...I am a woman whose ex-husband worked throughout our marriage and receives more of my salary than I do. And I have the children. And no, I don't receive alimony. Thank you Wilentz for a $42k divorce that didn't even go to trial.

  • Comment Link Leigh Nix Thursday, 15 September 2011 01:34 posted by Leigh Nix

    Alimony is intended to provide for an ex-spouse who is not able to fully provide for themselves once their marriage has ended. I don't understand why the higher earning spouse should continue to provide once the marriage is over, aside from perhaps 5 years (enough time to get training or an education). Once the marriage is over, the non-working or lower income earning spouse continues to receive benefits, but what does the alimony payor get in return? If the alimony recipient had not been married, they would not have enjoyed the luxuries provided by their spouses income, why should they be privy to it once the marriage has ended? This bill needs to become law immediately!
    BTW, I am a divorced woman who received no alimony or child support and am very proud to provide for my family without relying on my ex to support me.

  • Comment Link Russell Tuesday, 06 September 2011 23:27 posted by Russell

    Women are a protected and privileged group in America. Contrary to the popular narrative, there has never been a point in time when women were "oppressed" any more than men. Society historically locked BOTH men and women into rigid gender roles, requiring men to provide for an adult who was restricted from working. Men were expected to die for women and women were excluded from the draft. BLACK people, homosexuals, and various other cultural groups were oppressed, but NOT women. Men suffer from higher mortality, higher depression, and higher rates of homelessness than women. There has never been a time in history when ship captains have asked for lifeboats to be given to "niggers" and "faggots" first while the heterosexual whites risked their own lives. Previous gender roles were necessary for survival because jobs required physical labor that would injur women who were necessary for child bearing. As soon as men created the technology for women to work in safe environments females were soon allowed to do so. Whites never scrambled to create safer work environments for blacks and straight people have never come together to ensure the comfort of gays.

    Feminism had noble begininngs but evolved into a disgraceful movement which exploited men's instinct to protect women.

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